Lillian Accordino

Lillian A. Accordino (Cutro)

Monday, November 12th, 1934 - Wednesday, October 21st, 2020
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Lillian A (Cutro) Accordino, 85, of Mays Landing, died peacefully at home, in the loving arms of her daughter Suzanne on Wednesday, October 21, 2020.

She was born on November 12, 1934 in Bayonne New Jersey, the sixth in a family of seven children to the late Rose and Nicholas Cutro.

Lillian is survived by her other children: Monica R DeSanto, Steven N Accordino and Matthew C Accordino; daughter in law Linda Accordino; six grandchildren: Matthew A and Amanda R DeSanto, Jairus and Jessica Accordino, Brooke and Carmine H. Accordino and a great grandson, Jackson DeSanto Bogues.
After graduating high school, Lillian worked at Baker Caster Oil until her marriage to the late Carmine L Accordino in 1955. They settled in Peekskill, New York where they raised their family.

Lillian was a stay at home mom until her children were old enough for her to enter the teaching work force at Walter Panas High School until 1980. Then the family moved to Scottsdale Arizona, with only two older children at home, she found a place as a teaching assistant in the Paradise Valley school district. She also worked many years until her retirement for Walgreens mail order pharmacy.

After retiring in 2003, she and Carmine decided to leave the warmth of Arizona and move back to their New Jersey roots, settling in Mays Landing. They traveled, enjoyed their grandchildren and were huge fans of the Dallas Cowboys and Philadelphia Eagles.

If you were lucky enough to stop by the house while she was making her out of this world sauce and meatballs, you were guaranteed to leave with the biggest smile on your face as well as a care package tucked under your arm.

Suzanne, Monica, Steven, & Matthew would like to thank from the bottom of their hearts Darlene and all the other Heartland Hospice angels for their unconditional care and understanding during their Mom’s illness.

Services will be private.

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Joe Cutro

Posted at 10:57am
I'm Joe Cutro, Lillian's nephew, and son of her oldest brother Joe. My memories of Lillian are among my oldest, going to back to when I was maybe three years old - we're talking the mid-1950's here. That's when she was my Aunt "Cookie". She lived at 14 Silver Street in Bayonne, right next to us at 12 Silver Street - her mom (my grandmother) Rose owned both properties. (Rose was a successful businesswoman and a very sharp investor, and was actually able to leave an inheritance to all (19?) of us grandkids). Aunt Cookie babysat my brother Chris and I frequently during those years, an interlude that ended only when Carmine came along and swept her off her feet. I actually remember their wedding well, not that I was there - I wasn't. Older brother Chris got to be their ring bearer. Mom and Dad left me at home (babysat by my Aunt Marie on my mother's side) where I proceeded to cry my eyes out about being left behind. There's no pleasing a 4-year old, I suppose.

I remember Carmine and Lillian living in the Bronx for awhile before moving to Crompond in upper Westchester County (NY) right near Peekskill. While this what would later be termed an "exurban" area, it was the country for a city kid like myself. Chris and I loved going up there to visit with Lillian, Carmine, and Suzanne. One cool thing for me was the big white ducks (or were those geese?) that would run around their yard. The best thing, however, was Lillian and Carmine's wonderful kindness and hospitality. The last time we got together before I left for college was at a party for my grandmother, who was dying from cancer at the time. After that, I drifted away from family involvement for a long while, and before I knew it, the Accordino's had moved away to Arizona.

My contact with Lillian and Carmine was pretty sparse over the next 25 or so years, even though I had eventually become more interested in family matters. But even with those few phone calls, it had become clear to me that Lillian was the one who was keeping the Cutro extended family together, at long distance no less. She served as a clearinghouse, keeping tabs on as many family members as possible, and then sharing that info (no judgements, no editorials) with those same family members. When you realize that keeping up with the whereabouts and whatabouts of the well-dispersed Cutro clan is like trying to herd cats, Lillian's accomplishment was amazing. When brother Chris died in 2012, she was first person I called and she got the word out to the family for me. I'll be eternally grateful for that.

When Lillian and Carmine moved back east in the mid 2-oughts, I was able (sometimes with my wife, sometimes not) to visit on a several occasions. They were always fun (Matt, I remember that incredible venison omelet that you made for me). And there was the time my dog Abbey peed on the carpet. Carmine was furious, and Lillian had to calm him down. My last visit was last December, at the end of a business trip to New Jersey. Carmine was already gone, but "Auntie" (as I called her later in life) was in fine form that day. She made us lunch as she told stories from times past and shared her up-to-date family "intelligence". And Suzanne, Monica, Steven, and Matt - she non-stop bragged on you guys.

Yes, Auntie had a darker side. Addiction to the Dallas Cowboys is indeed a tragic thing. But that's about the only bad thing I can say about her. She was a gift to us all and will be very sorely missed.

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